- coming out (again) -
Oct. 11th, 2026 08:02 pmToday was National Coming Out Day.
So today I say once again, I am a transgender woman who is attracted to other women.
Four years ago I made a social media post to friends and family announcing that I was trans. I’d already spent the year before that struggling with the realization and accepting it.
The last five years have brought a lot of changes. I’ve learned a lot about myself. I’ve found new communities and I’ve lost connections.
I am now 50 years old and proud to be comfortable with being a trans woman. And while I may still have trouble seeing it in myself, I seem to have reached a point where I can pass in public.
I stand and am proud to be trans because when I was younger there weren’t folks out there being allowed to be publicly trans. It was considered a shameful thing to hide. It shouldn’t be.
I know that there is safety in the closet and not everyone can be comfortable being publicly out. I know I have privilege in that respect. I try to use it to make sure others will be able to be themselves safely.
So, today, I make the statement about myself so that someone else doesn’t have to hide who they are for decades like I did.